Thursday, January 31, 2013

making time

It's sad but true, some of us glorify being busy.  I wouldn't say I necessarily glorify it, but I am guilty of talking about it, or sighing out loud about it.  I don't see the glorification of being busy, but it seems our culture is guilty of it.  

I have learned in the last few months that sometimes saying "yes" to others means saying "no" to myself.  I am notorious for having a full plate.  I will admit, I like to be busy, to an extent.  I do much better with structure but lately I have found myself juggling more often than I prefer.  

How do I know this?  Because I m the type of person who will take the time out every night to make a healthy dinner, a soup from scratch, a fresh batch of cookies.  Or take extra time to juice my greens.  Or write on this blog.  Or pack my lunch for the next day at work.  Or ski.  or practice yoga.  Yet lately, none of that has been existent in my life and I am feeling it.  It happens to all of us.  It is simply part of life.  

I didn't realize it though until I saw a quote today that went something like this: "don't have enough time to eat healthy?  Then you better make time in your life for illness".  And it struck a cord.  Chris and I are pretty healthy people, but sometimes, life happens.  I reach for my mid afternoon coffee when really I should be reaching for my beet juice or tea.  All those quick, easy, "comfort" things can easily become a habit.

For some, those quick, easy, "comfort" things can become a ritual.  Or so robotic, that we don't even notice what we are tasting or doing to ourselves.  So of course, we need to develop an awareness.  And to do so, we need to make some time.

Life's too short.  It passes by silently.  Next time you are feeling busy, make sure you say "no" because that means "yes" for  your family, your children, your husband, girlfriend, YOURSELF.  

I recently had a birthday and received some notes from friends that brought tears to my eyes.  Some were simply a card of fun gift in the mail (who doesn't love mail) and others were notes mentioning my zest for life.  It's fun to learn what others portray of you and I realized I wasn't feeling so "zestful" lately (is that a word?).  But it sure made me realize that I need to get back on my train and make TIME to send a card and make someone else's day, drink a cup of warm tea, and as my yoga teacher said to me this week:   Just breathe ~  Note my big rocks and see if there is anything I can refine, shave time off of, and ask myself where am I getting caught up.

So ask yourself the same and stop glorifying busy.  Take the time and energy you would use to tell others how busy you are and instead use that time to breathe, to taste your food (instead of being so robotic and shoveling it into your mouth), to send a card or to have a cup of warm tea.  Even better - to tell someone you love them or to count your blessings.  

It's up to you to make the time for the things you value most.

Friday, January 11, 2013

 Happiness.  We all know what it is.  We all want it.

But why do we want it?  I am curious - as each of us has our own reasons.

I feel I am pretty content in life.  Of course, we all have our ups and downs, our good days and our bad days, but I am happy.  I am grateful.  I have a roof over my head, food anytime I need/want it, not one job, but two, a healthy family, fabulous and supportive friends, and the best hubby in the world.  Hands down.  Life is great.

In my opinion, I think focusing on those "little things" keep us happy.  How often do you stop to even acknowledge those little things?  The freedom in those little things.  And what those little things offer to us in our lives.

Theories actually suggest that 40% of a person's happiness is based upon the actions you choose to do ~ those things you can do on a regular basis (sourced from the documentary Happy).  FORTY PERCENT!  That's pretty huge, considering it means that you have a large part in contributing to your happiness.

So before you choose what you will do with your day, what are things that would make you happy?

Every day is different.  For me, today, I chose to catch up on things at home and indulge into a few cappuccinos.  Maybe yesterday, that would not have made me happy.  And I know tomorrow, that won't make me happy as I have a date with my skis, skins and WP resort bright and early.  Saturdays are my designated mornings to skin to the top of that never ending mountain.  And it makes me happy because I am alone in the stillness of nature and I know I will get to see the sunrise without being distracted.

Brainstorm ideas of what makes you happy.  It doesn't have to be winning the lottery or a new fancy home.  Dig deeper.  And even deeper.  Find those things in the nooks and crannies of your life that maybe you never gave attention to before.  Like coffee, for example.  It's warm.  It's comfort.  What's not to love.  Maybe tea.  Maybe a snowflake landed on your nose.  Build your awareness on those things that you often pass by.

Becoming aware is key.  Knowing you are having a bad day allows you to acknowledge and accept it and then DO something about it.  Remember what I mentioned above:  40% of your happiness is based upon the actions you CHOOSE to do.

Be present.  Be aware.  I recently ran across a quote that really stuck a cord with me.  I don't know who said it.  "When you live in the present moment, you will never have to wait for anything".

Just a little reminder to empower yourself today.  To be grateful.  To see the little things.  To become aware.  To cultivate your definition of happiness.  And then practice that - every day.

Those things are hard to do if you are constantly planning for the future or dragging your feet in the past.  We all have the skill set to be happy.  And if you don't think so, make an effort to change just one thing in your day.  I promise, you will see that you indeed have the skills.  Instead of wanting happiness, BE HAPPINESS.